my account just got lifted from a ''30'' day suspension , i've been suspended before earlier twice - once for 3 days last year, and one for a week probably back in july..i believe my next offense is permanent and going by how long the 3rd offense was , i believe they're strict with the ToS so im paranoid and don't want to mess up again. i changed all my privacy settings to friends only and no one. this last suspension was from ''messages'' along the lines of intending to offend - what caused the suspension was either me mentioning that they were using a ''handicapped'' perk or calling them a ''sweaty toddler'' , either way i believe handicapped is what triggered it. i sent the message in retaliation to the message they sent me via friend request , and i checked to see if i blocked people from sending me messages , and i did , but they sent it through friend request.. i have anger problems when it comes to people trolling me through games , losing, or someone sending me something simple like ''your trash'' and ive began taking some form of medication for it because im too sensitive, but if theres a way that i can block messages in friend request too please let me know or if theres any extra steps i can take please let me know. should i just disable friend request now? i don't want anyone to trigger me persoanlly via messages or anything online to provoke me and i dont want to fall for it again. im very paranoid now.
and yes i just made an account to ask this, theres no where else.
It's good that you recognize your weaknesses when it comes to this.
If you're already receiving clinical help and you think the best way forward at the moment is to block requests then do so. Going cold turkey is sometimes the best. I don't believe there is a way to disable messages with requests as the two go hand in hand (to know who the request is from - "hey it's me from pushsquare" etc). I guess the initial request message isn't counted as a "message" if that makes sense.
@nomither6 Well, that’s a right mess you’re in, but guess what — it’s not impossible to fix. I’d say that yes, step 1 is disable friend requests, at least for a while. You’ll be able to still do all the normal gaming you would normally do and interact with your current friends. If you’re really desperate to add new PSN friends then hang out here on PushSquare forums and get to know people or check here : https://www.pushsquare.com/forums/online_gaming_and_communiti...
Step 2 would be to stay away from competitive online gaming for a while. You could still be reported if you blurt out an expletive to someone on voice chat as now Sony is recording and policing voice chat reports. So either disable all voice chat and messaging or just stay away from all online gaming with randoms.
Step 3, keep getting the professional help.
I have no idea how Sony’s policies go and perhaps is you fly straight for a period of time then your prior infractions will drop off your record. Maybe someone else knows and can comment whether there is a moratorium on suspensions with good behavior.
It can be done. I know because somehow after years of gaming I’ve never once been suspended.
“We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.”
@Th3solution i tip my hat off to you , not being salty can be a real challenge for some of us. its not so simple like those who are fortunate enough to have a better mindset and emotions . while i did get back into multiplayer (competitive) ive been on the meds while gaming and it helps tremendously. i finally see games as just enjoyment and entertainment , win or lose, and the mental feeling i get from it is amazing ; just happiness and no salt. unfortunately , all i play is multiplayer games ; single player not so much these past years , its not much my thing anymore with just a handfull of exceptions.
also thank you for the future friend refrences and heads-up about them monitoring voice chats now. really helpful. i think ill leave friend request on and just trust myself to just delete it if its toxic. all it takes is just a simple button press , i can do it. so much more to life that matters
@RogerRoger y'know all the answers i received are suggesting i disable friend requests , they're not disabeled ''yet'' but, as soon as i get one toxic friend request i will in fact disable them for a while. i was straddling the fence about that one but since every answer recommends it , ill do it. thanks for the advice , really helpful site. im bookmarking this page so ill always remember it.
@nomither6 Sounds like you’re heading in the right direction, my friend. Just keep it up and don’t let those troublemakers online get under your skin. That’s the only way they win is if they cause you to lose control. Otherwise, being the bigger person is always a victory.
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